Do you ever ask yourself if you matter? Kind of like wondering to
yourself ... "Do I make a difference?" Or, "Am I having an impact?". "How do I fit in?". Etc.?. Do you ever find yourself immersed in
thought and questions like these?
If you do, and when you are, do you find yourself to be less fully
present then you'd like to be? Regardless of your surroundings or
whomever your with, whether alone, by yourself, or in the middle of a
conversation with somebody, this inner self questioning will distract
you from wherever you are, whatever you happen to be doing, or with
whomever you're with. It's as if you believe that finding the confidence
to say, "Yes. Indeed I do matter!", will allow you to be more fully
present to the situation or circumstances at hand.
But, know this. However much you believe that finding a positive answer
to these questions is to any degree essential, what's even more
essential is uncovering the motivation to be asking.
Bringing more light and perspective to the automaticity and frequency of
your inner questioning, will open you up to seeing with crystal clarity
how unanswerable and forever debatable these questions are and will
continue being. Truth is, no set of circumstances will provide any
factual evidence to even pose such questions. Then why do you keep
asking?
Why?
If you believe that the automaticity, investment, and frequency of such
self questioning stands between you and being more fully present,
engaged, and satisfied, then read on:
I often talk about two types of conversations we have going on most all
the time. One is an inner conversation. A monologue or dialogue you're
having with yourself. The second is public. A conversation you happen to
be in, at the moment, with another.
The disparity between one conversation and the other will effect the quality of your communication.
The inability to see these two conversations going on simultaneously and
distinct from each other will create communication problems. Active
listening of the person(s) speaking will be compromised. How can you
clearly hear, let alone respond most intelligently, when you don't know
which conversation you're listening to? Chances of misunderstanding and
responding poorly become greater. Quite often damaging our image and our
relationship.
Bringing consciousness, shining a light on this machinery, and observing
it in action, will transform your sense of self and ability to engage
with others more powerfully and authentically!
But, how can you learn to separate one conversation from the other and
be more fully present, when your life as it is doesn't offer the time or
perspective for you to see and employ this power?
Insight and Acknowledgment Coaching will help you slow down the
questioning machinery, look into the gears that keep it running, and
empower you in dismantling it's power.
Working together you'll come back to your Self, get back in touch
with your magnificence, ability to engage with Authenticity, and produce
results consistent with who you really are. Your True Self.
With Love,
RJ
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